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Divorce – done with dignity and respect

I’d like to think that with nearly 5 million divorces in the UK since the 1980s (about 150,000 per year) we’d be starting to hear stories of what worked and …
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Trauma and PTSD – a pending danger (with a simple remedy)

I’ve been disturbed recently at what certifies in the movies as a PG, 12, 15 or 18 audience. Last month I gave feedback to Cineworld having been in a 12 movie with my friend and one of the …
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The mental & emotional health of our young people

Over the course of nearly 15 years as a counsellor and psychotherapist, I’ve worked with many children and young people using Human Given’s therapy. Many arrive with anxiety-related symptoms – …
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Human Givens – not all therapies are the same

If you were to Google ‘counsellors online’, ‘therapist near me’, or in fact therapists in any city in the UK, you’d be faced with pages and pages of choices. And …
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Trauma recovery – keep it simple

Trauma is one of those emotional health areas that can impact our lives unexpectedly. Many of my clients have been in the armed forces and experienced active service; they may …
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Medication – do your research

One of things I like to get clear on from the outset of working with a client is whether they’re taking medication – and if so, what is it and …
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Dying from too much comfort …

I recently went to hear Pauline Sanderson speak. She’s an adventurer who, with 6 others back in 2006, completed a cycle of 8150 miles, starting at the Dead Sea in …
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To conform or to transform

Running businesses that supply therapy in Aberdeen and counselling in Dundee when I’ve spent the last 12 years of my life in London and the previous 10 overseas in Jakarta, …
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Psychotherapist, counsellor, psychologist, coach – who’s going to help you

You’re not going to need to know whether to do a search for ‘psychotherapist Aberdeen’, ‘counsellor Aberdeen’ or ‘life coach Aberdeen’ unless you’re in the difficult position of having an …
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How ‘therapy ready’ are you?

I have an extraordinary range of people who seek me out each month; men, women, teenagers, children – anyone who wants real results quickly from a psychotherapist in Dundee, a …
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How do you refer a friend for therapy

It’s a tricky situation this one. When you notice a friend or family member could do with help or support beyond what you’re equipped to give, how do you suggest …
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Feeling sad – what you can do about it

There are a remarkable number of people who look happy, hold down jobs, parent their children, do sport and have great friends … and all the time they feel sad …
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A good night’s sleep

Guest post …by Julia Welstead Julia’s Sleep Recipe: decide on your ideal sleep slot eg 11pm to 7am and pledge to yourself that you’re going to stick with it until …
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Successful divorce – is it doable?

Best together? Best apart? Stay married? Get divorced? These are not assumptions I make when a husband, wife or partner comes to talk to me (either separately or together). Relationships …
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Investing in yourself

My favourite phonecalls are the ones from people who have heard about Healthy Chat or have searched for a coach, a counsellor or a psychotherapist in their area and are …
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Are you really ready for change?

It might seem like an ‘of course I am’ question, but as a psychotherapist in Dundee, with clients from Edinburgh, Glasgow, London – throughout the UK – I have to …
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A psychotherapist worth their salt

When you’re seeking out a psychotherapist in Dundee, Edinburgh, Glasgow or London, how will you know a good one from a mediocre one? It’s not like a hairdresser where every …
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Enough with tolerating

This afternoon I chose to leave work a little early and go down to the pool for some exercise and some mind clearing. After 30 minutes and with 64 lengths …
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Your relationship with risk

For many people ongoing exposure to new risks and lots of change is a sure fire formula for panic attacks or at the very least stress-related physical symptoms. For about …
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Successful Retirement

If you ask an under 30 what successful retirement means to them I’m sure at least 95 % of them would look mystified. Ask the same question to an over …
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